Oh, how I've missed you all so very, very much! I have been staying caught up with everyone's blog (usually reading on my phone at the hospital) the last few weeks. I'm sorry I haven't been able to comment, but please know I've been here in spirit.
A few weeks ago my mom had surgery to remove a tibia lesion the size of a large orange. The biopsy came back as low grade sarcoma. Fortunately, the surgeon is confident he got all of the malignant tissue and she won't need radiation or chemotherapy at this time. They'll watch her leg closely for the next few years as a precaution. A couple of days after her surgery, my mom started to have difficulty breathing. It turned out that she had a blood clot in her lung. After another week or so waiting for Coumadin to sufficiently thin her blood, she was finally released to a rehabilition hospital to get her strength back & to learn how to use a walker since she can only put 50 pounds of her weight on the leg with the bone graft. My parents' relationship is pretty crappy most days and my dad can be incredibly selfish so my dad spends a lot of time being put out that my mom's situation has been an inconvience for him. I've literally had to have conversations with him about being nicer to my mom, which helps for a few days & then he starts to revert back to form. I'm not sure what is more stressful, my mom's health situation or dealing with my dad. The surgeon estimated that it will take 8-12 weeks for her bone graft to heal so it's going to be a long couple of months. I'm just glad all of this happened before my FET.
My tentative FET date is Friday, February 11th. Since my mom's bone graft is expected to take a lot longer to heal than they originally estimated, it's unlikely that she'll be able to travel to Denver. Plus, even if the bone graft is healed, I'm reluctant to risk her walking on ice or snow in Denver with a fragile bone, not to mention the added risk of falling while on Coumadin. My best friend has been sweet enough to offer to go to Denver with me to help me out while I'm on bedrest. My mom has accompanied me to nearly everyone of my fertility appointments the last three years and it definitely hurts knowing that she won't get to be there for what will hopefully be my last transfer. As far as FET preparation, I've managed to get my FET medications ordered, my mammogram done, and my pap scheduled so I think I'm in pretty good shape. Wednesday marks the one year anniversary of my ODWU...it's hard to believe it has been a year already.
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Hey TXGirlie...so nice to hear from you. I am so sorry for your mom's ill health and the situation with your dad. When it rains it pours sometimes!! Take care and Happy Holidays to you...
ReplyDeleteGlad you're doing OK but so sorry about your Mom. It is so hard to see how parents in precarious health situations and I'm sorry she can't go with you to Denver but I agree--much too risky. Hang in there and so glad your transfer is coming up!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about your mom, I hope she recovers quickly and without too much suffering. It is so difficult when the children need to be the parents, I wish you strength.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your mom! I'm wishing her a speedy recovery. It sounds like the two of you are very lucky to have each other. It's sad that she won't be able to go with you to Denver, but I'm glad that your friend will be there. I'm also glad that you aren't going to put off the transfer any longer to wait for your mom. I know that she probably wants you to get on with it too!
ReplyDeleteI'll be thinking about you both!